sirmitchell: Read this, it’s important.  dustinhenderlong: This is fascinating. theburiedlife: Top Five Regrets From Dying People —-                                                                                      For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.   People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: 1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it. 2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.  This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.  Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.  This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness. By Bronnie Ware

sirmitchell:

Read this, it’s important. 

dustinhenderlong:

This is fascinating.

theburiedlife:

Top Five Regrets From Dying People —-                                                                                     

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.  

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. 

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 

Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. 

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.


By Bronnie Ware

Hard To Be Soft ► A Caroline Forbes Mix 001. Phenomena – Yeah Yeah Yeahs She’ll make you sweat in the water   002. Lover To Lover – Florence + The Machine And I’ve seen that I’m heading down But that’s alright   003. Dancehall Queen – Robyn I still run this thing like a dancehall queen   004. I Eat Boys Like You For Breakfast – Ida Maria Don’t underestimate the hunter   005. Roll With The Punches – Lenka But I’ll be damned if I ever let you win   006. Silver Lining – Rilo Kiley Hooray, hooray But now I’m gold   007. Primadonna – Marina & The Diamonds I know I’ve got a big ego I really don’t know why it’s such a big deal, though   008. Shelter – Birdy Please teach me gently how to breathe   009. Breathe Again – Sara Bareilles Facing the ghosts that decide if the fire inside still burns   010. Under My Bed – Meiko Gotta take back what’s mine What else am I supposed to do?   011. Please, Please, Please, Let Me Get What I Want – She & Him Haven’t had a dream in a long time   012. Help I’m Alive – Metric Hard to be soft, tough to be tender   013. Forever Is A Long Time – Charlene Kaye It’s a long way to the end of the road   014. Fear and Loathing – Marina & The Diamonds Got different people inside my head I wonder which one that they like best Download | Spotify

Hard To Be Soft ► A Caroline Forbes Mix

001. Phenomena – Yeah Yeah Yeahs

She’ll make you sweat in the water

 

002. Lover To Lover – Florence + The Machine

And I’ve seen that I’m heading down

But that’s alright

 

003. Dancehall Queen – Robyn

I still run this thing like a dancehall queen

 

004. I Eat Boys Like You For Breakfast – Ida Maria

Don’t underestimate the hunter

 

005. Roll With The Punches – Lenka

But I’ll be damned if I ever let you win

 

006. Silver Lining – Rilo Kiley

Hooray, hooray

But now I’m gold

 

007. Primadonna – Marina & The Diamonds

I know I’ve got a big ego

I really don’t know why it’s such a big deal, though

 

008. Shelter – Birdy

Please teach me gently how to breathe

 

009. Breathe Again – Sara Bareilles

Facing the ghosts that decide if the fire inside still burns

 

010. Under My Bed – Meiko

Gotta take back what’s mine

What else am I supposed to do?

 

011. Please, Please, Please, Let Me Get What I Want – She & Him

Haven’t had a dream in a long time

 

012. Help I’m Alive – Metric

Hard to be soft, tough to be tender

 

013. Forever Is A Long Time – Charlene Kaye

It’s a long way to the end of the road

 

014. Fear and Loathing – Marina & The Diamonds

Got different people inside my head

I wonder which one that they like best

Download | Spotify

wibblywobbly-fantastic:

a-girl-who-waits:

till-the-end-of-my-days-sherlock:

askmeagaintomorrow:

AU: The Eleventh Doctor visits the Tyler family, finding only Rose and her son at home. He gets caught while talking to Rose’s little baby boy.

GODDAMN IT YOU GIFSET MAKING PEOPLE OF EVIL

why must you hurt me

this is just hitting below the belt

entertainmentweekly:

Amazing.

greatest hits

tagged as:
#the maine

tagged as:
#the last gif
#life

Bloopers → Stanley Tucci, The Devil Wears Prada

Never-ending list of favourite movies: Pride and Prejudice (2005) You have bewitched me, body and soul, and I love, I love, I love you. I never wish to be parted from you from this day on.

Never-ending list of favourite movies:

Pride and Prejudice (2005)

You have bewitched me, body and soul, and I love, I love, I love you. I never wish to be parted from you from this day on.

shirtoid: Wizard of Who available at RedBubble

shirtoid:

Wizard of Who available at RedBubble

reincheck: korrawr: Be The Leaf by *GAGBAGCHEN OH MY LORD

reincheck:

korrawr:

Be The Leaf by *GAGBAGCHEN

OH

MY

LORD

disneyink: So, this was already posted on this site as a reblog; but this is my tattoo. I got it sometime in late January in Elberton, GA at Aggressive Ink tattoo. I decided for this design because Peter Pan is my favorite Disney movie. I never wanted to grow up when I was little and I always kept my window open just for him.& I thought it would be cool to have Mickey sporting Pete’s hat for the simple fact that Disney is my heart. So have Mickey there will always remind me of that, not that I’ll forget, and Peter’s hat is reminding me that even if I do grow up, I can always go back to being a Lost Girl every now and then (: 

disneyink:

So, this was already posted on this site as a reblog; but this is my tattoo. I got it sometime in late January in Elberton, GA at Aggressive Ink tattoo. I decided for this design because Peter Pan is my favorite Disney movie. I never wanted to grow up when I was little and I always kept my window open just for him.& I thought it would be cool to have Mickey sporting Pete’s hat for the simple fact that Disney is my heart. So have Mickey there will always remind me of that, not that I’ll forget, and Peter’s hat is reminding me that even if I do grow up, I can always go back to being a Lost Girl every now and then (: 

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